People who matter

Everyone who knows them has a story you've never heard.

Their brother remembers 1974. The grandchildren remember the pancakes. Gather every story, for a seventieth, a retirement, a wedding, or to remember them.

An older woman laughing with her eyes closed at a family table in a garden, her granddaughter beside her.
Everyone at that table remembers her a little differently.

One life, many tellers

Five people. Fifty years. One Alan nobody had seen whole.

Collected by his sister for Alan's fiftieth. Each of them knew a different Alan, and none of them could have told the others' stories.

An illustration with the characters of The Hangover, an affectionate parody not affiliated with Warner Bros.

  1. 1971

    The day he was born

    he wanted a look first

    Alan was born on the hottest day of that August, and he did not cry. The nurse said some babies just like to have a look first. Sid held him like a parcel he'd been told was fragile and asked the nurse twice whether he was doing it right. He carried him out to the car the same way, very slowly, with his elbows out. On the way home the radio was on low and Alan was quiet the whole drive. Sid turned it off in case it was bothering him. He started crying the moment it went quiet.

    Linda, his mom

  2. 1978

    Alan, aged 7

    the pothole on alder street

    Alan was seven. Wrote to the city about the pothole on Alder Street. Three pages, with a drawing and measurements. He asked me to drive him down so he could hand it in himself. The woman at the desk read the whole thing while we stood there. Said it was the best letter they'd had all year. They fixed the pothole in 1989. He'd left home by then. I called and told him. He asked if they'd used the right depth.

    Sid, his dad

  3. 1992

    Alan, aged 21

    the rabbit and the post office

    Alan taught me to tie my shoes when I was six. Mom had been trying for weeks with the bunny ears thing. Alan's method had a rabbit too, but the rabbit had to go to the post office, wait in line, forget its form, and come back. It took about four minutes per shoe. I was late for school a lot that year. I still do it in my head. I'm thirty-five, and every time I tie my shoes, a rabbit forgets its form.

    Tracy, his younger sister

  4. 2006

    Alan, aged 35

    the lighthouse documentary

    Tracy brought me home for dinner and Alan shook my hand for a long time. Long enough that Linda took my coat off me while it was still going on. At dinner he told me about a documentary on lighthouse keepers. He knew the director's name and how many steps each lighthouse had. I went home and found it, so I'd have something to say next time. It was three hours long. Next time, I mentioned it. He said he'd moved on to bridges.

    Doug, his brother-in-law

  5. 2008

    Alan, aged 37

    small even squares

    It was Doug and Tracy's engagement dinner, in 2008. I think. I was seated next to Alan. I was telling a story and, I'll admit, gesturing quite a lot, and when I looked down he had cut my entire steak into small even squares. He hadn't asked. He didn't mention it. I couldn't figure out whether thanking him would encourage him. Would he do the potatoes next? Would he do it at the wedding? I said thank you, fairly quietly. He said I was welcome. I ate it, and kept my hands in my lap for the rest of the meal.

    Stu, a friend through Doug

2021. Alan turns fifty, and for the first time every one of these is in the same place.

An older man stands to give a toast at a restaurant table while the guests around him listen, in warm light.

How it works

Everyone has a piece of them. Ask for it.

  1. Name who it's for

    Dad's seventieth. Sue's retirement. Remembering Gran. Add a few questions to get people started, or leave it open.

  2. Send one link

    To everyone who knows them, from every part of their life. No accounts, nothing to install.

  3. Everyone tells a story

    Typed, or simply spoken aloud: someone who would never write a page will happily talk for ten minutes. They can say what year it was, too.

  4. Keep them together

    Every story in its teller's own words, with their name on it, gathered in one place to read and to keep.

Gather the stories only other people can tell.

Start a collection, send the link to everyone who knows them, and find out who they've been to everyone else.

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